You’re NOT a Loser – A Pep Talk

How about a round of applause for all the losers in the world?!

That’s right. I’m calling you a loser.

Before you drop your chin and start smacking your forehead repeatedly while saying “Stupid! Stupid!” — allow me to clarify. I’m congratulating you because, unlike the most of the population, you had the balls to put yourself out there. It’s not easy to take risks, and most people would rather live in the comfort of their safe spaces and their safe choices, rather than step out and take a leap of faith.

So today, as we begin our journey of getting out of da funk, I beg you: CUT YOURSELF SOME SLACK, WILL YA?!

After you take a moment and acknowledge that you may have stumbled, I want you to take a moment and think about all of the things that you’re doing well.  All of the things that you’re blessed with. All the ways you ROCK. Follow these steps, and go easy on yourself. You don’t have to write them down, but at least list them to yourself out loud.


  1. Recognize your strengths and the ways you shine.

Here are some of the things I like to say to myself:

“I am confident and smart, an out-of-the-box thinker with passion that people relate to. I always do my best and go the extra mile. I am kind and respectful. People can count on me to be professional. I come prepared. I am flexible and fearless.”

Hell, get a little vain.

“I have amazing eyebrows. I am in excellent shape. People admire my style. I always make an entrance.”


2. Recognize the ways in which you are blessed, and show some gratitude. 

Here’s why I feel #blessed:

“I can afford my life in this expensive-ass town. I have a roof over my head, food in my belly, and some decently dope clothes on my back. I have a car and the freedom to go wherever I want. I am healthy and have lots of options for taking care of myself. I can quit my daydream at any time and pursue whatever else I want because I have made amazing friends and contacts that support and believe in me.”


3. Recognize the ways that you can be better, in ways you can control.

For me, these include:

“I can wake up earlier. I can plan my days better. I can text back everyone as soon as they text me (this is a hard one for me!) I can meditate. I can spend more time outside. I can save more money consistently from each paycheck. I can get new materials to help support my team in helping me secure jobs. I can create my own content and be creative, even when someone isn’t paying me.”


4. Recognize that some things are just out of your control.

For me, this is always–

“There was someone that they just saw as better for that specific role.”

For you, it may be:

“I’m overqualified and not what they’re looking for at this time.”

“The product isn’t right for them NOW, but it might be later.”

“I still have a little more to learn, but I’ll get there.”

“I’m just not at the table–yet.”


See? Laying it out there really gives you perspective. Even when it seems like the world is crashing down on you, you’ll find that you have so much more going for you than going against you. Practicing self-love and gratitude isn’t just the first step that you should take on your journey to getting out of your funk, it’s something that you need to make into a daily habit. Try this each day, and watch how your posture changes, your mood improves, and how quickly your sparkle returns.

Just as a little extra whip on your nonfat latte (I know it makes no sense, but it makes me happy,) here are some famous quotes from some pretty rad peeps about losing:

“Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.” -Her Royal Majesty, Oprah Winfrey

“Never let success get to your head. Never let failure get to your heart.” – Queen Bey, Beyonce

“I’ve probably earned the right to screw up a few times. I don’t want the fear of failure to stop me from doing what I really care about.” – Emma Watson

“Don’t fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.” – Bruce Lee

“Try and fail, but never fail to try.” – Jared Leto

“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying again.” – Michael Jordan

“‘May the Force be with you’ is charming but it’s not important. What’s important is that you BECOME the Force — for yourself and perhaps for other people.” – Harrison Ford

“The major thing that scares me isn’t failure; I’ve experienced that a lot. What scares me is not making the attempt.” – George Clooney

Now take it easy. You’re doin’ great, kid.





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